Boosting Kids’ Self Esteem

Every parent wants their child to have high self esteem. This mini course shares tips that help make that happen. In the last chapter of the self esteem mini course I shared 60 sentences parents say that kill kids’ self esteem.

The worst 4 things parents can do that compromise our kids’ self esteem are:

1. Telling them they are wrong
2. Expressing disappointment
3. Expressing shame
4. Expressing doubt in the kids’ attempts

Fortunately, we can also say the opposite things, which will boost their self esteem:

1. Tell kids they are right
2. Congratulate them on their success
3. Express pride in them
4. Encourage them to take risks and try

Today, I want to share 60 sentences that boost self esteem. If you find some sentences you use often, use them more often. Try adopting a few more to help boost your child’s confidence.

60 Self-Esteem-Boosting Statements

1. You can do it!
2. This is a good idea!
3. It only seems impossible!
4. What a great idea!
5. Who was the inspiration for this fantastic idea?
6. You have all the time in the world.
7. I am proud of you.
8. I am showing off to everyone about your success.
9. Your happiness and success is a great reward for my hard work as a parent.
10. You are so good at this.
11. I can trust you.
12. You are so organized.
13. It is a practical idea. Do you need my help to make it happen?
14. I will find time for you.
15. It is expensive but important.
16. Let’s try again.
17. You are smart!
18. You are a very respectful kid!
19. You are very considerate.
20. It is Ok not to succeed, it happens to me too. We learn from our mistakes.
21. You can make it!
22. You have a great chance!
23. You can always do the best you can.
24. Try again!
25. It is never the “right” time, just go for it!
26. It is hard now but you will get better at it.
27. You are young but being young is not always an obstacle!
28. I am very happy!
29. I am your greatest fan!
30. I believe you!
31. You will enjoy your effort!
32. You are never too old for this.
33. You are mature.
34. It is never too late!
35. It is good enough!
36. I can help you.
37. It brings my lots of pleasure to see you do …
38. Dad/mum will be proud of you too!
39. I can’t wait for dad/mum to get home to share the good news.
40. You are perfect the way you are.
41. You are my greatest creation!
42. I love you!
43. Life and success is about taking risks.
44. I am busy now but I will make time for this.
45. You don’t have to be like anyone else, you are you, one and only.
46. It is OK if it is hard to understand now.
47. Let’s agree on things together.
48. I would like to share some of the responsibilities.
49. Thank you!
50. You should be very proud of yourself.
51. It is OK to make mistakes.
52. We are not perfect.
53. Life is a long journey of learning. We never know everything. We must try and keep learning rather than wait for the perfect moment.
54. You are strong enough.
55. I think it will work.
56. You know enough.
57. This is practical.
58. You bring pride to the family.
59. I am proud you did that.
60. You are a great kid.

I hope you recognize yourself in this list a lot. If so, keep doing what you are doing. If not, it is never too late to add some to your interaction with your child. This will boost his/her self esteem.

Happy parenting,
Ronit

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