Last time, I wrote about the conflict between the two minds – the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. Confusion is a big sign of the war between the two minds and getting to know ourselves is a good way to find balance, self esteem and happiness.
The “if” part of the interview with myself deals with our most precious desires to love, to be loved, to have control, power, stability, success and self esteem. It is very important for us to be honest with ourselves and discover what we want in life.
Wanting is a great tool for finding happiness. Unlike theories saying that “not wanting” is the best way to eliminate suffering in the world, I believe that wanting and going after what you want is the best way to bring happiness to the world.
For both parts of the mind to get to know each other, use your top part of the iceberg to ask the bottom part what it would like to do in various situations and allow your subconscious to answer freely.
Interview Rules
Here are reminders of the interview rules:
Do it with yourself – you do not want to add challenges to your interview by revealing yourself to another person.- Write everything down – it will help you to go over it couple of times before you finalize your thoughts. Writing will allow you to go over it in a year or two and discover how much you have changed. If writing by hand is not for you, use the computer. If recording the interview appeals to you, record it.
- Be honest with yourself – you do not need to impress anyone and that is how you will get the best results.
- There are no right and wrong answers – do not look for something that you “should” be thinking. The only thing you should be is yourself!
- Some questions have more than one answer – you do not have to stick to one. If there are more, write them all down.
- Go wild!
What if…
- If I could learn anything I wanted, I would study…
- If I could go back in time, I would…
- If I had all the money I wanted, I would…
- If I could relive one event in life, it would be…
- If I could erase a moment in life, it would be…
- If I could meet one person, it would be…
- If I could wear anything I wanted, I would wear…
- If I could ask my parents one thing, I would ask…
If I could say one thing to my parents, I would say…- If I could tell the world one thing, it would be…
- If I could forget something, it would be…
- If I could change the world, I would…
- If I had to spend 1 million dollars in one week, I would spend it on…
- If I could eat anything I wanted, I would eat…
- If I could make someone else love me, it would be…
- If I could buy someone I love a gift, it would be…
- If I could look like any person I wanted, I would look like…
- If I could invent something, it would be…
- If I could have 3 wishes, they would be…
- If I were an animal, I would be…
- If I could visit any place in the world, I would visit…
- If I could win the noble prize, it would be for…
- If I could make a difference in the world, I would…
- If I could be famous, I would be famous for…
- If I needed one more chance, I would ask for…
- If I could meet the most inspiring person in the world, I would ask to meet…
- If I could be in any physical condition, I would…
- If I could have a chef cooking all my meals, I would ask the chef to…
If I could choose one birthday party to repeat, it would be…- If I could meet one friend from the past, it would be…
- If I could repeat one school year, it would be…
- If I could go to my favorite teacher and thank them, it would be…
- If there is one thing I am grateful for, it is…
- If there is one thing I do not want to lose, it is…
- If my house was on fire, the first thing I would save would be…
- If I could choose my funeral, I would…
- If I could wake up in the morning knowing how to play a musical instrument, it would be…
- If I could write a book, it would be about…
- If I could choose the best partner, he/she would be…
- If I had my own plane, I would go to…
- If I could buy any gadget, I would buy…
- If I could be in any profession I wanted, I would be a…
- If I could build any house I wanted, I would make it…
- If I could win a big prize, it would be…
- If I could win a big prize, I would spend it on…
- If I could make someone proud of me, it would be…
- If I were a king, I would…
- If I were a genie, I would…
- If time stood still, I would…
- If I could choose one thing that would make me the happiest, it would be…
If I could say one thing to my parents, I would say…
If I could choose one birthday party to repeat, it would be…
Remember, you are in search for who you are, attempting to settle the war between the two parts of your mind, the conscious and the subconscious.
Join me in two weeks for the third part of Interview with Myself – What do I think? Knowing what you think about various topics can bring lots of clarity into your life. You will be surprised to discover that you do not have a set, well thought out idea about many topics, which may cause you confusion and pressure and hurt your self esteem.
Until next time, enjoy your interview with yourself and I hope you find happiness in many of your answers.
Blessings of happiness,
Ronit
This post is part of the series Self Esteem Mini-Course:
- What Is Self Esteem?
- How School Promotes Low Self Esteem
- Beliefs and Where They Come From
- Social Identity
- Service Your Self-Esteem
- Your Self-Esteem Checklist
- How to Get Rid of Doubts
- Assertiveness and Self Esteem
- How to Be Assertive
- Beliefs of Assertive People
- Ronit Baras’ Success Experience Theory
- Ms Self Esteem has an Identity Crisis
- 13 Useful Conflict Resolution Steps You Need to Know
- Watch Your language or Lose Your Kids’ Trust
- War Between Two Minds
- What if
- What do I Think?
- Awareness is Half the Solution
- Damaging Kids’ Self Esteem
- Boosting Kids’ Self Esteem
