Motivating Kids (13)

Affirmations for Self Motivation

Affirmations are a good way to encourage your kids to move forward. Instead of telling them you do not want them to give up, you give them an affirmation that tells them not to give up.

By using affirmations, you can plant motivating thoughts in your kids that will allow them, even long after they do not live in your house with your support, to rise up and succeed in whatever they wish to do.

In a way, motivating your kids is like giving them a fish, while teaching them to motivate themselves is like giving them a fishing net.

I believe that self esteem is the fuel of self motivation and parenting is the art of building our kids’ self esteem so they can keep going forward towards all their desires in life.

How to find good affirmations

1. Think of things you believe will appeal to your kids and allow them to motivate themselves
2. Think of people you know who are self motivated and ask yourself, “In what ways would I like my kids to be the same and how do I help them get there?”

Self motivating affirmation ideas

Here is a list of thoughts that in time will motivate kids to move forward. Some statements are different versions of the same idea. Some are self explanatory or covered before. Make sure to use all the quotes here to implant some of them in your kids’ mind. In time, they will become a toolkit they can use to motivate themselves. Some thoughts come with some tips to instill them in kids. Many of the tips are suitable for different thoughts. Pick the ones most suitable to you.

You can, if you are brave enough, give your kids the list of thoughts and ask them, “Do you think you have this thought in you?” and after you know what they already have and what is still missing, ask, “Which of them would you like to have? And what do you think I can do to help you adopt it?”

1. “I treat others the way I want them to treat me. If I want people to help me, I help others. If I want them to encourage me, I encourage others. If I want them to love me, I love others”
2. “I know there are many ways to do one thing. I accept that not all people think the same and that not everyone thinks my way is best. It is OK for people to think differently”
3. “Many hands make light work“. When I share, help or cooperate with others, I can achieve more”
4. “When I am angry, I control myself and never hurt myself or others“
5. “I am honest and say what is on my mind in a nice way without hurting others”
6. “When I am in trouble, I can ask for help. Many people around me can help me”
   

   Tips

   • Talk to your kids about help. What is help?
   • Emphasize working together and teamwork
   • Use statements of sharing and caring
   • Talk about your own need for help to teach that help is not a weakness
   • Volunteer with your kids to do acts of kindness and talk to your kids about the emotional reward
   • Talk about the importance of taking care of ourselves
   • Talk about assertiveness
   • Talk about acceptance
7. “When I am sad, I can do something that makes me happy. I have hundreds of things that can make me happy and I do not need others to give them to me. I can give them to myself”
   

   Tips

   • Make sure your kids have a happy list
   • Help your kids plan what to do when they are sad. In our house, we eat, sleep, meditate and choose something from our happy list…
   • Tell your kids that happiness is a choice
8. “When I play, I follow the rules and play fair. I take turns and I understand that winning means nothing if it means losing a friend”
   

   Tips

   • Playing by the rules is a way to avoid frustration. In every game, there are winners and there are losers, but the game is fun as long as it stays a game
   • Emphasize teamwork and friendship
9. “Gossip is not productive. I avoid gossip. If I talk about someone behind his or her back, I always say something positive”
   

   Tips

   • Be positive when you talk about other people
   • Whenever you talk about someone else, make sure to divert the conversation towards “good things”. When your kids are upset or angry at someone, say, “I understand you are not happy about what he/she did, but…” and add something positive, like, “He/she is still a good friend”, “We all make mistakes sometimes” or “You still like playing with him/her”
10. “I treat everyone with respect. I respect other people’s opinions, even when they do not think like me”
    

    Tips

    • The best way to teach respect is to be respectful parents. Ask your kids for their opinion about your own behavior
    • When you disagree, say, “I disagree” or “I think differently”. Never downplay your kids opinion
    • Show your kids that you do not agree with your friends about everything, but you are still their friend
11. “I spend my time with successful kids and learn a lot from them”
    

    Tips

    • Pick up kids you would like your kids to hang out with and tell your kids why you would like them to associate with those kids
    • Get to know those kids’ parents
    • Encourage your kids to invite friends to play
    • A great party can seriously boost a kid’s popularity among their friends. Throw a party for your kids at least once a year
    • When you kids are invited to parties and events with other kids, go along and socialize with the other parents

Motivating times,
Ronit

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