Family Matters

Richard "RJ" Jaramillo - Single Dad

Fathers shape daughters and mothers shape sons. These relationships carry a lot of responsibility and every parent should know how much they will make a difference on how their children will be in the future.

Sue Scheff - Sue Scheff Blog

This is an interesting question since you can quiz a variety of parents and each will have a different answer.

For me, my daughter was easier as a child through elementary, while my son was very difficult to keep entertained, but as teenage years came around, my daughter was a handful and my son was fantastic. I think the differences are personal and vary within each unique family.

Susan Heim - Susan Heim on Parenting

As a mother of four boys, I can tell you that it's constant chaos. While girls are quietly coloring at a table, boys are running around the room and trying to tackle one another. Of course, there are calm boys and active girls, but for the most part, they're very different.

Boys and girls learn, play, and act differently, and it's important for educators and parents to recognize these differences and adapt to them. Often, boys are labeled naughty when they're just doing what boys are genetically programmed to do!

Annie Fox, M.Ed. - From the desk of Annie Fox

The differences in our parenting approaches to each of them come from their individual personality and temperamental differences. They are not a function of gender.

Maria Melo - Conversations with Moms

I have two boys and 6 nephews. I know that when the cousins get together, it's a madhouse. They love action and at times seem fearless. They are very adventurous and their energy seems to have no end.

There are many studies that detail the physiological, emotional, analytical and behavioral differences between boys and girls, so I won't repeat what I'm sure you've already heard or read.

I can tell you that as a mother of two boys, I know that one of the lessons I hope to teach them is to respect women. Hopefully, I can teach them to respect their minds and hearts as well as admire their beauty.

If I had a daughter, I would try to teach her to respect herself and not fall victim to what society says she should look like.

Annie - PhD in Parenting

I addressed this topic recently on my blog. In summary, in a perfect world, I do not think we would need to parent boys and girls differently. However, due to the messages that society sends our girls and our boys about their gender and the opposite gender, I do think that we need to parent them differently, because we need to counteract those messages.

Ultimately I think it is important for us to parent each of our children as individuals and not as a member of a specific gender group. This is true both because gender stereotyping is harmful and also because we cannot be 100% certain that we know the gender of our child until they tell us (as their gender assigned at birth may not be their true gender).

Read more in my post called "Should we parent boys and girls differently?"

Ria Sharon - My Mommy Manual

This begs generalizations and I don't know that my observations are universal. In my house, although both my kids are physical in the sense of wanting to be held and touched, my son's need to run and wrestle and play physically is higher than my daughter's.

So with parenting, using visual cues and physical contact are much more effective - putting a hand on his shoulder, hugging as we take deep breaths, etc.

Ronit Baras - Family Matters

I do not think there needs to be a major difference between parenting boys and girls (I think parenting the eldest and the youngest is much more different). If anything, this stereotypical misconception of gender is a social pattern I need to fight. I do not go for pink for girls, blue for boys, dolls for girls, cars for boys, cooking and make up toys for girls, science and outdoor toys for boys.

As much as I would like to say that I parent my kids the same, I don't. I have put are stickers on our dining room board and on some of my boxes that say "Girls can do anything", yet I do not have any that say "Boys can do anything", although I think they can too.

When my son decided to register himself to dancing, I encouraged him more and paid more attention to him than I did with my two other girls' dancing. Why? Because he was the only boy in his dance class, while my girls were part of the majority of girls in their classes.

So no, I do not treat my kids the same, but I expect the same from them. I expect all three of them to go after their dreams, even if it means they are the only boy in their cooking class or the only girl wearing blue. However, I need to support them differently, depending on which social norm I am helping them fight.

I do not believe boys and girls are different in their abilities, but they must face different perceptions by the media, peers, fashion and the adults in their life. As their parents, we face the same challenges with them.

There is no "All boys are.." and no "All girls are…" and I tell my daughters exactly the same massage I tell my son - that they are unique and wonderful and if they focus on what they can do, achieve, feel and have with the gender they have, they will enjoy life greatly.