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What Does the Future Hold for Our Kids?

Sad little boy hugging a dollIf I gave every parent a peek into the future, most parents would want to know what would become of their children. We dedicate a lot of time, effort and love to get them to a good place and even a glimpse 10 minutes into the future could really help us direct our actions.

Eden had to raise a virtual child in a computer program for a course in psychology. I thought it was great fun. The rumors were that some of the virtual kids in the program had died or had gotten into lots of trouble before they had reached the age of 18, which was the end of the “parenting game”. Eden’s daughter was gorgeous, happy and successful.

I told Eden that her real daughter would be even better, because the choices the program allowed her to choose from were limited to 4 options, when in reality, you typically have many more options.

As Eden “played” the game, I started thinking it was a good learning tool for parents – not 100% realistic and I would not let any computer program or statistical research help me raise my child – but I really thought it was interesting to know how different parenting styles result in different behaviors in children. In a way, I thought the game was the closest thing to predicting your child’s future.

I already have 3 kids and I was lucky to have a strong, well-defined philosophy on life and education before they were born. When Eden was young, I wanted a sneak peek into the future. When Tsoof was born, I knew it was only going to get better and when Noff was born, I knew that life had a lot more to offer her than my imagination.

African boy cryingWhen Eden was born, Gal and I understood that Eden would become a reflection of the reality we raise her in. We made a conscious choice back then to have no TV at home. When Eden was 2½ years old, my grandma gave us her old TV that we used only to play tapes on the VCR. When Eden was 3 years old, we decided that we would not buy newspapers and would not watch programs on TV, particularly the news. Our friends and family were shocked (still are). They told us she was not growing up in the real world, as if what was shown on TV or written in the newspapers was reality.

I want to share with you a song that was written in 1987 and had a big impression on me when I was a student, still developing my ideas about raising children. It gave parents a sneak peek into their children’s life and possible future. If you want to know what will become of your kids, consider the link between the world they are raised in and the choices they learn to make.

It is quite an old song and watching it, it is painful to discover how relevant it still is 25 years after it was published. I hope it will make you think about the kind of reality you want to raise your children in – the one that is projected on the TV screen or a happy one that you design yourself.

I was sitting with Matthew, we were watching TV.
I said: Hey Matthew, what do you see?
Do you see the guns? Do you see the bombs?
See those people throwing all of those stones?
Do you see the cars going up in flames?
See their faces, do you know their names?
Hey Matthew, when you’re watching TV
Hey, Hey Matthew, what do you see?

Do you see the tension in a rich man’s house?
Do you see the cat? Do you see the mouse?
Do you see the beauty or the big bad beast?
Do you see the famine? Do you see the feast?
In this world of villains do you see the crime?
Is a superhero waiting at the edge of time?

Hey Matthew, when you’re watching TV,
I said Hey, Hey Matthew, what do you see?

I see Dallas, Dynasty, Terrahawks,
He-Man, Tom and Jerry, Dukes of Hazzard,
Airwolf, Blue Thunder, Rambo, Road Runner,
Daffy Duck, The A-Team, The A-Team, I see the A-Team.

I was sitting with Matthew, we were watching TV.
I said Hey Matthew, what’ll you be?
Will you walk like a lion in the danger zone?
Will you pass unnoticed in the great unknown?
When you see the press out on a witch hunt.
When you see a political publicity stunt.
Will you fight for the right? Will you be a man?
Will you step aside? Will you give a damn?
Will you ride that tide with the starry eyed?
Will you give and take?
Will you laugh ’til you ache?
Will you learn to live?
Will you take? Will you give?
As the bridges burn, will you live and learn?
Will you be numbered with the brave and true?
Well, good luck kid, here’s lookin’ at you.

In the future, Matthew, so bright and free,
Hey Matthew, what’ll you be?
Hey Hey Matthew, what’ll you be?

I want to be a soldier, street fighter, be a policeman,
A captain of a boat – big boat.
I want to be a magic man, a cowboy,
A train driver, high jump champion,
A fireman, a pilot, I want to be your friend.

It’s all a game – I hope.

Hey Matthew,
Hey Hey Matthew.

I hope.
I hope.
I hope.
I hope.

The future is in our hands!

Hopeful parenting,
Ronit

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August 10, 2012 by Ronit Baras In: Parenting Tags: choice, emotional intelligence, inspiration, kids / children, lifestyle, optimism, perception, practical parenting / parents, projection, responsibility, self-fulfilling prophecy, society, television, tv, video, violence, vision

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