• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar

Family MattersPractical Parenting Blog

  • Home
  • Series
  • About Ronit Baras
  • Books by Ronit Baras
    • Motivating Kids
    • Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers
    • Reflections
    • In the Outback with Jasmine Banks
    • The Will
    • * Your Cart
    • * Secure Checkout
  • Contact
    • Join Us

Home » Emotional Intelligence » Personal Development » Knowledge or Attitude?

Knowledge or Attitude?

Girl playing with snowWhat is the best way to support your child’s development?

For many years, knowledge was considered to be the ultimate factor for success in life. Many parents and educators still pump knowledge into kids’ brains, in hope this will bring kids to the desired achievements.

While in the past, knowledge was something not all people could have, nowadays it is much more accessible. Unfortunately, knowledge is not the thing that will give kids the edge to succeed.

For a long time, the Intellectual Quotient (IQ) was considered the best predictor of people’s success in school or in life. When Howard Gardner came up with his Multiple Intelligences theory, other predictors emerged. The Emotional Quotient (EQ), measuring Emotional Intelligence, was one of them.

The EQ came to people’s attention when Daniel Goleman and his Book Emotional Intelligence become famous. EQ in a nutshell is a person’s abilities to:

  1. Recognise their own feelings
  2. Control their own feelings
  3. Recognise the feelings of others
  4. Help and support others with their feelings

Getting these skills to high level was found to have better correlation with success in life than high grades at any stage of schooling or any intelligence or academic aptitude test.

Children with a high EQ can handle their feelings very well and possess a better attitude towards life.

In my work on the “Garden of Eden” program, I worked with children aged 1-5 and examined the possibility that 100% of the curriculum will be dedicated to building emotional intelligence, rather than to transferring knowledge.

Well, as you might suspect, I found out that academic achievements are typical “side effects” of strong EQ, but not vice versa. If you work with children on their emotional strength and attitude towards learning and life, they seem to be picking up knowledge from the molecules in the air.

I say “molecules in the air” because they were with me most of the time and I did not teach them that knowledge, yet all of them picked up the same knowledge from the walls, the conversations, the books and the stimulations that were just there, waiting to be noticed.

Developing children’s emotional intelligence is like giving them another set of glasses to notice things they cannot notice otherwise because they are preoccupied with their emotions, such as fear or “the disease to please” the adults in their life.

Many of the conflicts between parents and children are over the parents’ desire to give the kids knowledge, believing this is the key to success and a happy life, where in fact it has been proven again and again that top scores at school do not necessarily translate into social, personal or financial success in life.

When you face a conflict with your kids, whether they are young or teens, and you have any doubt, choose attitude over knowledge.

Happy parenting,
Ronit

Check Out My Book
“Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers”

  Cover of Be Special Be Yourself for Teenagers

Share This Page

  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on X (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)

Related

Happy Kids Learn Better

Happy Kids Learn Better

For many years, gaining knowledge was the reason kids were sent to school. Knowledge, for many years, was king. In today's fast world and overwhelming information, we see many kids in school that have great knowledge but not the ability to succeed in their schooling. What do you think the…

February 25, 2008

In "Education / Learning"

How to Be a Great Teacher (U to Z)

How to Be a Great Teacher (U to Z)

I love teaching. I think teaching is my calling and I know that many teachers feel the same. Over the years, I have collected effective philosophy and teaching tips and am happy to share some with you. In this last post in How to Be a Great Teacher, here are…

February 13, 2014

In "Education / Learning"

Optimism or "What’s the big fuss about Emotional Intelligence (Emotional Quotient)?"

Optimism or "What’s the big fuss about Emotional Intelligence (Emotional Quotient)?"

Since the Be Happy in LIFE program and the Garden of Eden program are based on promoting Emotional Intelligence, I have been asked many times to explain the main idea behind them. Although Emotional Intelligence (EQ - Emotional Quotient) became popular after the publication of Daniel Goleman's Book, Emotional Intelligence: Why…

March 3, 2008

In "Education / Learning"

 

Published: December 6, 2007 by Ronit Baras
Last modified: January 2, 2024In: Personal Development, Parenting, Education / Learning, Teens / Teenagers, Emotional Intelligence, Kids / Children, Did You Know? Tags: success, emotional intelligence, teen books, education / learning

1 Comment
Newest
Oldest Most Voted
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments

Get Happiness by Email

Sign up to receive posts by email and get my free mini-course Seven Emails with Seven Secrets for Seven Weeks to boost your personal development




    Join Us on Social Media

    Facebook logo Twitter logo Linkedin logo Pinterest logo RSS feed icon

    Books by Ronit Baras

    • What motivates your child? Read Motivating Kids by Ronit Baras Motivating Kids From: $9.95
    • Reflections by Ronit Baras Reflections From: $5.99
    • Be Special Be Yourself for Teenagers by Ronit Baras Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers From: $5.99
    • In the Outback with Jasmine Banks by Ronit Baras In the Outback with Jasmine Banks From: $5.99
    • The Will by Ronit Baras The Will From: $5.99

    Be Happy in LIFE logo
    Book your private life coaching with Ronit Baras and learn how to be happy in life

    Girl speaking at student leadership programLeaders are not born. They are made. Bring this Student Leadership Program to your primary school or high school and you will create a community of empowered, inspired student leaders, parents and teachers.

    Related Links

    • Be Happy in LIFE – Life Coaching
    • Noff Baras – Screen Actor & Model
    • Personal Growth Web
    • The Motivational Speaker
    • Tsoof Baras – percussionist, composer and producer

    Primary Sidebar

    Your Cart

    Speaker Bookings

    Ronit Baras - Practical Parenting Blogger
    Book Ronit as a Speaker for Your event »

    Ready to be happy?

    Happy woman holding a cup in the snow
    Be empowered and set your spirit free!

    Engage Ronit as Your Life Coach »

    Give to Receive

    Kiva - loans that change lives

    Contact Us · Subscribe · Terms of Use / Privacy Statement · Return & Refund Policy · Sitemap

    Copyright © 2025 Be Happy in LIFE · Built and powered by Get Business Online

    Secure HTTPS

    • Home
    • Series
    • About Ronit Baras
    • Books by Ronit Baras
      ▼
      • Motivating Kids
      • Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers
      • Reflections
      • In the Outback with Jasmine Banks
      • The Will
      • * Your Cart
      • * Secure Checkout
    • Contact
      ▼
      • Join Us
    wpDiscuz

    How to Motivate Kids

    Motivating Kids by Ronit Baras
    Get this essential guide to motivating kids (and teens) and master the art of motivation.

    BUY IT NOW

    ×
    Happiness

    Get Happiness by Email

    Sign up to receive posts by email and get my free mini-course Seven Emails with Seven Secrets for Seven Weeks to boost your personal development




      ×

      Share This Page

      • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
      • Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)
      • Click to share on X (Opens in new window)
      • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
      • Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)