I love mirrors. I love them because they help us learn things about ourselves and they have the power to change the inside by looking at the outside. What we tell ourselves in front of the mirror has a great effect on what we say to ourselves internally.
Our thoughts are affirmations we tell ourselves in the inside and they can direct us towards a happy life or painful life. If we say good things to ourselves, we will focus on good and our life will improve. If we say bad things, we will focus on heartache and pain and get more of them in our life.
Years ago, when I was very young, I heard that if I look in the mirror and tell myself that I was pretty, I would become pretty. I remember thinking it was stupid, but something made me try it anyway. I sat in front of the mirror for hours and, what do you know, I started feeling pretty. I was only 16 and I learned a big lesson in life. Beauty is a perception!
Years later, I tried this with another experiment. I wrote on the mirror, “Every time I look in the mirror, my hair looks full and fabulous”, and, what do you know, a week later, I met 3 different people, who knew nothing about each other or my experiment, who said, “Your hair looks fabulous. What did you do to it?” I swear to you I did nothing different at all.
Last year, my son started working on his abs. He went to the gym to do classes that were mainly cycling, and at home, he did sit-ups and squats. One day, he started showing off his abs (or lack of them) and said, “With every breath I take, my abs become more chiseled”.
4 months later, when he showed off his abs, he said, “I think my abs became more chiseled when I started saying it”, even though he hardly went to the gym and hardly exercised at home. He was only 19, yet he fully understood the concept of “fake it ’til you make it”.
Things you say to yourself in front of the mirror have a greater effect on you. They feel awkward at first and become firm beliefs over time.
Daily mirror affirmations that will improve your life
Here are 25 affirmations you should say to yourself in front of the mirror. Do it every day for 3 weeks and see how your life changes. Sometimes, you just need a reminder. It sure is cheaper and shorter than taking medication or going to a therapist.
- I love me! Byron Katie makes people in her retreats say it for 20 minutes in front of the mirror. People pay her to teach them to love themselves. DIY!
- I am OK! Why? Because you are! Everything you do is the best thing you can do with your knowledge, skills, fears and circumstances.
- I am enough! Do not let anyone judge you based on their criteria. If someone tells you that you are not enough, it is usually because they feel there is such a thing as “enough”. Poor person. Feel sorry for them.
- I can do it! Those are the most powerful words you can tell yourself. They instill hope, strength and courage.
- I love my body! A good relationship with our body is essential to being healthy and happy.
- I am perfect the way I am! Because you are loved, you are enough, you are OK and you always do the best you can, you are perfect, with all your “flaws”. Let go of this desire to be something you are not. Why? Because it is a lost battle!
- I am strong! This is what you need to tell yourself in front of the mirror when you feel you are not. We are all much stronger than we think we are. In every situation, you can find something you can do to change things for the better if only you believe you can.
- With the body I have, I can experience joy and happiness. Everyone can enjoy and be happy, whether they are short, tall, fat, skinny, dark or fair. Joy and happiness is not a prize. It is a state of mind, so choose to be happy!
- If my mind is telling me bad things about me, I don’t have to listen! “Do not let your mind bully you into believing it must carry the burden of its worries” Astrid Alauda
- I am pretty! Say it enough and see how your perception changes. We see beauty from within.
- I am special! I don’t need to do anything to be special. I just need to be myself and that is what makes me special.
- I respect myself! Self-respect is important if we want to be respected by others. Self respect projects confidence and trust and it is good for us.
- I am kind! Remember, in relationship, only kindness matters and if you have it in your heart, your relationship will blossom.
- I am sexy! Make up your mind what sexy is and be that. Remember, you define it, not the media or anyone else. If you are not feeling sexy, your definition needs changing.
- I am proud of myself! Being proud is the reward we give ourselves for achievements. Remember, being proud does not mean boasting.
- I am valuable and worthy! As long as I value myself, others will value me. My value and worth have nothing to do with my income, my looks or my skills. I am of value just because I am here in this world. I determine my value, not others!
- I make a difference to this world! You have made a difference the second you were born. You have made a difference to your parents, family and all people you have any contact with. Even if they are not close to you, you can make a difference to the world around you.
- Tomorrow everything will be better! Sleep makes a huge difference to our ability to perceive pain and danger. When we say to people, sleep on it! It is mainly because a good night sleep changes the perspective. When things are tough, go to sleep.
- This too shall pass! Whenever things are bad and hard, remind yourself that they are temporary.
- I see good everywhere! You can always see full half of every glass. When you choose to focus on good, more good will come your way.
- Everything will be OK in the end. If it’s not OK, it’s not the end! This is my mantra to managing difficulties in life and I find it very useful when we need to keep stretching ourselves more than we expected.
- I am free! I am the only master of my thoughts and feeling. No one can make me feel anything without my permission.
- I am safe! I do not live in real danger. Most of my stress and fear is not real but perceived. I am protected and no person, no words, nothing is a real threat.
- I am grateful! My life is full of things to be grateful for. I remember and appreciate my achievements, my good luck, my health, my wealth, my friends and relationships and I remind myself every day of how fortunate I am.
- Every breath I take is a new beginning. I can decide to start fresh from any point I want, any moment I want. I can use every obstacle as a stepping-stone. I can choose that tomorrow will be different. I am not the same person I was last year, last month, last week or even yesterday. Every event in my life changes me into a better version of me.
Press the Search button
Remember, you want those words to be carved in your mind. At first, when you say them to yourself, it will feel strange and after a week, things will start changing. While you are saying it for 2-3 minutes each time, the subconscious part of your brain will search your memories and experiences for things that will support this belief and when the brain searches for something, it will always, always, always find it.
So, your job is just to press the Search button and give your mind time to process. If you do it over 3 weeks, your mind will find many supporting data that will make this new belief to be true and valid and it will carve it in the system as a default.
Wishing you a good mirror experience,