Don’t be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you can dream it, you can make it so
For many people, dreams are the fluffy clouds we see at night when we go to sleep (well, in fact, only the visual people imagine a picture while dreaming).
Another dream in daily use is the wish. We wish for things and by this we tell our subconscious that this is what we want.
Every special event in our life triggers dreams in peoples’ mind. Birthdays, a new job, moving to a new house, a new year and every other new thing that has a feeling of a beginning, has the power to trigger such dreams.
Funny, but we can, if we dare, dream every day of our life.
Every day is the first day of the rest of your life
In a post for the beginning of the year, I have recommended you to make a huge wish list. If you have not done this yet, take the time and do it. You will be surprise how many of your wishes will come true only because you have written them down.
Why do I believe in dreams?
Over 25 years ago, when I was at a course during my military service, I got an assignment to write what kind of kids I wanted to have. I remember us all arguing with the presenter that we are just 18 years old and have no plans to have kids in the near future and him saying it was just an assignment and the reason he chose kids was because it was very far from our life.
I wrote on a pink, lined paper about the kids I wanted to have without really knowing the meaning of parenthood. I envisioned my kids “rich in experiences, open to cultures, adventurous and flexible”.
This was hard. I could easily imagine characters I wrote about in my stories and other kids, but not my own.
It was a strange feeling. The presenter talked about our ability to imagine things that were far away from our world and suggested to keep this note for years to come. I saved mine in my collection box. It was just an assignment.
Twenty years later, after going through Tony Robbins’ program and doing my life coaching course, I was asked to do the same thing about happiness, family, health, wealth and remembered my pink, lined paper.
One evening, after an intensive and exciting training day, I went to my collection box and took out the pink paper.
I had 3 kids, each born in a different country. I had travelled with them to 17 wondrous places around the world and lived in 7 of them, where 3 different languages were spoken…
Rich in experiences, open to cultures adventurous and flexible
I had the 3 amazing kids I had dreamed of long before they existed. They were certainly rich in experiences: I did many of the most exciting things in my life when I was a mother and they did them when they were young – riding horses, sailing, seeing the Great Wall of China, standing at the peak of Bryce Canyon, diving at the Great Barrier Reef, climbing Aires Rock and many other adventures.
They were certainly open to cultures, having lived and travelled in so many different culture and language environments. They were the kids that would try every new dish, that would be thrilled to travel to any new country.
They spoke two languages fluently and asked to bring a teacher home to learn Spanish. They were the kind of kids that would be happy and excited to take part in any cultural celebration – Chinese New Year Carnival, African Event, Buddhist Festival, Ethiopian Celebration or Middle Eastern Dance.
They had visited temples, synagogues, mosques and churches and went to school with students from 60 different countries.
My kids were also adventurous. They would travel to a remote place in Thailand where nobody understood them, without booking accommodation in advance and without being able to read the Thai language on a map.
At the age of 6, they would hike 7 hours and be the first to get to the top of Mount Warning, leaving some panting grownups far behind. They would climb a Glacier. They were kids who slept in 5 stars hotels in the world, yet would cheer about sleeping in a tent.
I had 3 kids that were so flexible we managed to do all the things we wanted in life. They were so flexible that changing language is a challenge not a threat. They were so flexible, that changing countries, schools, houses (my 19 year-old lived in 16 houses in her life) was just part of life for them.
They were so flexible that a few minutes after they got to a new school or a new group of friends, everyone thought they had been there all their life. They were so flexible with food, with sleep, with friends and with changes that I know many adults can learn from them.
I tried to remember the day I wrote it. I was just 18, kids were not planned at that stage and I was planning to study journalism. I lived in a small town, where most people grew up and died in the same town, no one around me travelled or dared to leave the country and higher education was not even an option.
And I thought it was just an assignment…
The courage to dream is the first thing we need in order to get the life we want and deserve. Our subconscious latches onto our dreams and immediately plots a course in the right direction. I believe in dreams. Every day I look at my kids, I know I have designed them this way before I had them.
In parenting and in life, the first step is to create powerful, inspiring goals, to set us in motion and provide the framework for our journey.
Give yourself a gift – a dream. Dream of success, of love, of having the most wonderful kids on Earth and of a great, exciting life. Imagine a fairy with a magic wand who grants you 3 wishes. Make your wishes and send them to the universe to happen (or put them in a collection box). Your fairy will do the rest.
People need courage to dream. I wish you that courage.
Here is a song to inspire you.
Dare to Dream
Paul Begaud/Vanessa Corish/Wayne Tester (sung by Olivia Newton-John & John Farnham)
I am my own believer / In my heart the reason
I will follow the light from within
I’m not afraid of weakness / I’m gonna taste the sweetness
Of the power not to give in
Oh I will see it through / I believe this is my moment of truth
Dare to dream / Dare to fly
Dare to be the ever chosen one to touch the sky
Dare to reach / Dare to rise
Find the strength to set my spirit free
Dare to dream
I will go the distance / Embrace resistance
I will lay my soul on the line
When the wait is over / And the hunger has spoken
If I give my all, I will shine
Oh I will see it through / I believe, this is my moment of truth
Dare to dream…
And the heart will shine like the sun
A million voices together as one
I believe, I believe, I believe, I believe
Dare to dream…