• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar

Family MattersPractical Parenting Blog

  • Home
  • Series
  • About Ronit Baras
  • Books by Ronit Baras
    • Motivating Kids
    • Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers
    • Reflections
    • In the Outback with Jasmine Banks
    • The Will
    • * Your Cart
    • * Secure Checkout
  • Contact
    • Join Us
Home » Emotional Intelligence » What Am I Worth?

What Am I Worth?

Woman enjoying balloons with open arms

In coaching, we go through a process of re-evaluating our life, cleaning out old beliefs, throwing away disempowering ones and polishing the beautiful, empowering ones.

Once, I had a session with one of my clients, in which we discussed how much she should charge for her services. I think we all wonder about that when we interview for a new job, or when we meet a new client. How much will I be paid? How much am I worth?

My answer for this is always the same: You are worth whatever you think you are worth.

Because I’m worth it

L’Oréal

With most of our clients, we talk about money. Most of us (90%, to be exact) read too many fairy tales during childhood and grow up believing that being good and wanting money cannot go hand in hand. Do you remember those tales, saying that sharing your last piece of bread with animals and being poor and kind-hearted brings you the treasure?

I learned a powerful lesson about self worth 21 years ago. I was studying Special Education and was lucky to have some very inspiring mentors. One of them was a psychology teacher.

Our first meeting with her was most challenging. She scared us half to death. During roll call, she skipped names. After calling someone’s name, she would tell them, “That’s not a good name for you. In my class, I’m going to call you a different name.”

By the second lesson, the number of students had dropped from 80 to 25. She came in, looked at us and said, “This is great. I see it worked. Now we can learn something.” She was so strange, yet so inspiring. I was so excited to have her as my teacher. I learned a lot from her.

In one of her courses, called “case studies,” she gave us 60 case studies and we analysed them for 6 months. She was so unique in her testing techniques, that for an exam she asked us all to choose one case study, learn it well and come to her house to discuss it with her.

Well, I was a very good student and she had already given me an “A+” in two of her other courses, so I did my homework and went over to her house. She asked me some questions and after 15 minutes, she asked, “Ronit, what do you think I should give you?”

I looked at her surprised just for a second. Because she was so unique, every meeting with her was a growing experience for me, I knew I was going to learn something from this. I smiled and said, “A+.” She smiled back and said “You’ve got an ‘A+’.”

Woman showing confidence

Then, I left her house and joined a group of students who were standing outside, revising their notes before their exam. One of them approached me and asked me if I did not mind giving her my notes. She had not really chosen a case study and since mine was good, she wanted to use it too.

I showed her the main things we talked about and she went in. 15 minutes later, she came out looking sad.

I was surprised at her expression so I asked, “What did you get?”

“C,” she answered.

I asked her about each of the points in the case, to check if she had covered them well and she had. I could not understand. She had all the notes. She could have used them.
“She said, ‘Very good. Good point. I am happy you brought up this problem.'” my friend replied.”What did the teacher say while you were talking?” I asked.

“Are you sure you covered the whole case study?” I asked, trying to understand.

“Yes, I did. I talked about the same things you talked about,” she answered in disappointment.

I looked at the whole thing, puzzled. Why would she do that? What was the difference? I went over my own exam in my head and than it flashed.

“Did she ask you what you thought she should give you?” I asked and she said, “Yes, she did!” I took a deep breath. I knew what I was supposed to learn from this. “And what did you say?” I asked. I wasn’t surprised when she said “C.”

Since then, I always ask my students at the end of every course what mark they think they got. In the last 21 years, with hundreds of students around the world, I never failed to match my marks with the student’s self-evaluation. Try it, you will be amazed!

People jumping for joy

In life coaching and education we teach that each of us knows our own worth. No one can determine your worth but you. So if you think that others do not value you, your input or your beliefs, remember that this is because you do not value yourself in the first place.

In all the tests life puts you through – when you get a new job, when you face a difficulty, when you charge someone for your service – remember Ronit’s weird psychology teacher asking, “What do you think I should give you?” Then, turn to the only person who can tell you how much you are worth – you!

Why?

Because YOU’RE worth it!

Be happy,
Ronit

Share This Page

  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)

Related

 

February 15, 2008 by Ronit Baras In: Emotional Intelligence, Life Coaching Tags: empowerment, focus, positive attitude tips, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, success, values

Reader Interactions

Share Your Thoughts Cancel reply

* Your comment may take up to a day to appear.

Comments

  1. Ronit Baras says

    April 15, 2008 at 8:25 PM

    Sharon,

    Thank you for your kind words.
    I am happy to know you come here from time to time.

    with much love
    Ronit
    https://www.behappyinlife.com

    Reply
  2. sharon says

    February 19, 2008 at 9:07 PM

    Darling Ronit,

    Inspirational as ever and so simple it is breathtaking.

    Thanks for all your support

    See you soon :)

    Love Sharon xxxxxx

    Reply

Get Happiness by Email

Sign up to receive posts by email and get my free mini-course Seven Emails with Seven Secrets for Seven Weeks to boost your personal development

0% Complete

Join Us on Social Media

  • Click to visit our Facebook page (Opens in new window)
  • Click to visit my Twitter profile (Opens in new window)
  • Click to visit my LinkedIn profile (Opens in new window)
  • Click to see my Pinterest profile (Opens in new window)
  • Click to visit the RSS feed (Opens in new window)

Books by Ronit Baras

  • What motivates your child? Read Motivating Kids by Ronit Baras Motivating Kids From: $9.95
  • Reflections by Ronit Baras Reflections From: $5.99
  • In the Outback with Jasmine Banks by Ronit Baras In the Outback with Jasmine Banks From: $5.99
  • Be Special Be Yourself for Teenagers by Ronit Baras Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers From: $5.99
  • The Will by Ronit Baras The Will From: $5.99

Be Happy in LIFE logo
Book your private life coaching with Ronit Baras and learn how to be happy in life

Girl speaking at student leadership programLeaders are not born. They are made. Bring this Student Leadership Program to your primary school or high school and you will create a community of empowered, inspired student leaders, parents and teachers.

Need Better Movie Options?

SmartFeed better movie options

You’re Reading a Top 50 Parenting Blog

Top 50 Family Blog Award Top 50 Amazing Parenting Blogs 2017

Related Links

  • Be Happy in LIFE – Life Coaching
  • Noff Baras – Screen Actor & Model
  • Personal Growth Web
  • The Motivational Speaker
  • Tsoof Baras – percussionist, composer and producer

Primary Sidebar

Your Cart

Speaker Bookings

Ronit Baras
Book Ronit as a Speaker for Your event »

Ready to be happy?

Happy woman holding a cup in the snow
Be empowered and set your spirit free!

Engage Ronit as Your Life Coach »

Give to Receive

Kiva - loans that change lives

Contact Us · Subscribe · Terms of Use / Privacy Statement · Affiliate Program · Sitemap

Copyright © 2021 Be Happy in LIFE · Built and powered by Get Business Online

Secure HTTPS

  • Home
  • Series
  • About Ronit Baras
  • Books by Ronit Baras
    • Motivating Kids
    • Be Special, Be Yourself for Teenagers
    • Reflections
    • In the Outback with Jasmine Banks
    • The Will
    • * Your Cart
    • * Secure Checkout
  • Contact
    • Join Us

How to Motivate Kids

Motivating Kids by Ronit Baras
Get this essential guide to motivating kids (and teens) and master the art of motivation.

BUY IT NOW

×
Happiness

Get Happiness by Email

Sign up to receive posts by email and get my free mini-course Seven Emails with Seven Secrets for Seven Weeks to boost your personal development

0% Complete
×

Share This Page

  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)