I have had this discussion many times and I think it is about time I write about it. I would like to be honest and say that I am a mother of three, I still flirt with my high school sweetheart and I am proud of it! In fact, I recommend this to all of you!
You are probably saying to yourself, “Of course you would recommend this to everyone. You are just trying to encourage herself.”
Is it OK or not? I will let you be the judge.
The last time it came up was during one of my presentations. I talked about parenting and gave many examples of my three children. I talked about their studies, their confusions, their successes and the things I find challenging in parenting them.
People were very tuned in and participated really well, until there was a moment I started talking about the importance of touching our children.
“Until recently, my boyfriend did not like to hug people”, I said and the vibe in the room started changing. I could feel that something happened.
“He only hugged me and the kids”, I kept on saying. I could feel people moving in their seats uncomfortably.
“He had a belief that you only hug the people you love”, I said.
Things got worse when I started talking about the importance of going out with your partner and having valuable romantic time together.
“My boyfriend and I love watching movies”, I said, “We try to go out once a week and if there is no good movie, we go for a walk hand in hand”.
“How long has he been your boyfriend?”, someone asked and only then I started realising what was going on.
“I have known him since high school”, I answered, an honest answer, but a bit cruel, I admit.
Here are some more questions I have answered about my boyfriend:
Did you have a sexual relationship with him? Sure!
Did your parents approve of him? Well, I am not sure.
Did his parents approve of his relationship with you? Nope.
Did your children approve of him? They did not have any choice!
What do your kids think about him? They love him very much!
How does it feel to have a high school lover? Sexy!
How long have you been seeing him? 27 years.
When do you meet? Evenings, nights, weekends. Now that we both work from home, even during the day.
And then when I say that each of my three kids was born in a different place in the world, I get some weird questions:
Do your kids have the same father? Yes! There was once some doubt about Eden being mine, but we knew for sure who her father was…
How does the father of your kids react to your relationship with your boyfriend? He is very happy about the whole thing!
Where is he? We all live in the same house! I say and can see them imagining me living in a trio with three kids and before they ask how many beds I have, I reveal the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
Meet my husband, the father of my three kids, my lover and partner – Gal. I love him very much and he is still my high school sweetheart and my best friend!
You see, friendship and romance have declared bankruptcy. If you have kids with your husband, that is fine and everyone is happy about it, but regarding your husband as your boyfriend is not that popular nowadays. Shame! Shame! Shame!
Yours,
Ronit
