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How to Overcome Shyness Series

98% of people think of themselves as shy.

Shyness can be debilitating. As children, some people lack the skills and lived experiences of coping in social environments, which makes them feel crippled and develop a sense of helplessness because of it.

The good news is that it can be changed.

How to Overcome Shyness: Types of Shyness

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Most people, young and old, have experienced being shy in social situations. Most people also seem to think they are shier than everyone else. Surprisingly, they are wrong. 98% of people think of themselves as shy. As children, some people lack the skills and lived experiences of coping in social environments, which makes them feel crippled and develop a sense of helplessness because of it.

Shyness can be debilitating. The good news is that it can be changed.

Shyness is a form of anxiety. The severity of the anxiety depends on the type of shyness.

Situational Shyness

Situational Shyness means experiencing anxiety in certain, specific situations. Examples include, during a test, in a big group, when standing on stage, while having to present or make a speech, when answering a question, having to think on your feet or trying to make a good impression. The main challenge in this shyness is the timing. It never feels like the ‘right’. You never feel ready to tackle the task before you.

This post is part 1 of 4 in the series How to Overcome Shyness

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November 26, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: anxiety, change, control, emotional intelligence, fear, feeling, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, social, social skills

How to Overcome Shyness: Causes of Shyness

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In the previous shyness post, I explained about the three types of shyness: situational shyness (in specific situations), transitional shyness (during transitions or change) and permanent shyness (pretty much in all social situations).

To be able to overcome our shyness, we need to understand the reasons behind it. Here are the four main reasons why shyness occurs:

The first is a need for control. Shyness can start when people feel like they are outside their comfort zone. People who experience this kind of shyness usually know what is socially acceptable in certain situations, they ask questions to be sure, and they are good at thinking on their feet. These people prefer to talk about their strengths and things within their comfort zone, they are well prepared and like consistency. When things are unclear, unpredictable, or when someone pressures them, they worry and become anxious because they lose their sense of control.

This post is part 2 of 4 in the series How to Overcome Shyness

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December 3, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: anxiety, change, control, emotional intelligence, fear, feeling, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, social, social skills, trust

How to Overcome Shyness: Tips

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Being shy can be pretty debilitating. And surprisingly, most people have experienced it at least once in their lives. In this part of “How to Overcome Shyness”, I want to share some tips with you on overcoming shyness.

We know from part one that there are three types of shyness: situational shyness (in specific situations), transitional shyness (during transitions or the process of change), and permanent shyness (in most social situations).

In the last post, I covered the four main causes of shyness: need for control, lack of trust, fear of being judged and being critical.

Now that we know the what and why behind shyness, I want to share some tips with you on how to overcome it. If you have kids, escort them in this exercise and help them practice the tips. You may have to be their facilitator.

This post is part 3 of 4 in the series How to Overcome Shyness

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December 10, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: anxiety, change, control, emotional intelligence, friends / friendship, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, skills, social, social skills, tips

How to Overcome Shyness: Extra Tips

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In this final post of How to Overcome Shyness, I have added a few more tip to help you and your child.

If strangers are your greatest fear, practice. Conquer your fear by starting conversations with total strangers. Say something to the bus driver or the supermarket cashier. You will conquer your feelings by feeling the fear and doing it anyway. Take the risk. It gets easier after.

If your need to control things causes you to be shy, try letting go of your attachment to the outcome. Give it a go and wait to see what will happen. Accept things as they are. “Whatever will, be will be”.

If your shyness comes from a fear of being hurt by someone you trust, try opening up slowly. Share something small with someone. Take small risks of self exposure. Most people will share a similar sized ‘something’. If you are a parent helping a child, expose yourself first to encourage your child to do the same.

This post is part 4 of 4 in the series How to Overcome Shyness

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December 17, 2013 by Ronit Baras In: Personal Development Tags: anxiety, change, control, emotional intelligence, fear, feeling, how to, personal development / personal growth / personality development / self improvement, self confidence / self esteem / self worth, social, social skills, tips

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