As a parent, your kids’ behavior can sometimes drive you nuts. But looking at the behavior is misleading. You need to look beyond the behavior.
Most parents will tell you that parenting is one of the hardest “professions” in the world. Yet, we never got any training for it. In the past year, it’s been even harder. It’s been a difficult, overwhelming experience for parents and to their children too.
The best way to see how kids reacted to the challenge of COVID-19 restrictions and online learning, all you have to do is watch their behavior. When children feel overwhelmed, they immediately start to show dysfunctional behavior. Trust me, if they could, they would do things differently. Just as you would…
The result of such behavior is a very chaotic home, where stress is a constant resident. And, as we all know, stress brings even more stress.
The best way to help your kids is to see them – their needs, their feelings – beyond the behavior. It’s hard. I know. It’s hard to think of what they’re actually saying with this disruptive, disrespectful, dysfunctional behavior, if we’re not aware of our own behavior and how we project fear and discomfort with the situation.
The ability to keep asking, “What does this actually mean?” is very important in parenting. But it’s hard to master when the behavior is so strong and “in your face”. If we could all do it, the world would be a much more peaceful place.
Upcoming FREE event: Beyond the Behavior
Recently, I took part in an event with the host Barbara Hudson, called Beyond the Behavior: How to dive into challenging behaviors and confidently parents so that you can have a peaceful home. She interviewed several experts about ways to manage those challenging behaviors of children. Each of them also contributed some great content.
It was wonderful to partner with an educator who’s also in the special education world and passionate about supporting parents like you.
The event covers:
- How to stay calm and not get sucked into negative cycles
- Easy to use strategies for dealing with kids’ negative behaviors
- How to make a game plan to handle behaviors as they come up
- How to manage your mindset to see negative behaviors in a new way
- How to pick yourself up when things don’t go the way you think they should
This is a free event and everyone who registers gets freebies from all the experts who participated. Entry is limited to 500 people from around the world.
All you have to do is register. Then, you will be able to watch as your schedule allows from the comfort of your own home, or even during your daily commute.
The event starts on the 18th of January. Make sure to register beforehand.
The parenting experts in the series are very knowledgeable and give plenty of tips to manage difficult behaviors. The information they share will change your life as a parent forever!
I hope to see you there.
Remember, we have to see beyond the way children behave. Their behavior is a cry for help. If we can’t see it that way, their frustration will grow even bigger and their feeling of helplessness will grow with it.
My talk outline
Here’s an outline of my talk:
- The four levels of emotional intelligence, the sun model and how behavior is connected to it
- Why children misbehave
- How do deal with “crying”
- How taking care of yourself as a parent helps your children manage their own feelings
- Ways to help children recognize and manage their feelings
- What COVID-19 has to do with the challenges
- Screens, screens, screens and how to deal with them
I have to say we had to stop the interview because we could talk about it for hours.
If you’re interested in learning from real life interviews, scenarios, and advice from some of the leading parenting experts, grab your complimentary seat at this virtual event.
Wishing you a happy new year and happy parenting,