Love, as you know, is the most important thing you can give your children. Although you may not have any doubts about your love for your children, they often do. If you want to understand their doubt, think of your own doubts about your parents’ love for you.
Now, when I am a parent myself, I have no doubts about my parents love for me, but when I was a child, I had many doubts. It took me a long time to learn that what they called “love” was not my definition of love and I translated their behavior into “They don’t love me”.
In my parenting workshops and coaching sessions, many parents share the same feelings with me. There are things you discover about your parents’ love for you only when you have your own kids and when you get the opportunity to learn about “love languages”.
The great book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman describes 5 different ways to express and receive love:
– Words of affirmation
– Physical touch
– Acts of service
– Quality time
This post and the next one are about Quality Time, because Quality time is very tricky for parents in this day and age.