Comments on: Self Esteem Mini-Course (2): How School Promotes Low Self Esteem http://www.ronitbaras.com/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/ "Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids" Mon, 21 May 2012 19:50:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Ronit Barashttp://www.ronitbaras.com/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-7396 Ronit Baras Tue, 21 Dec 2010 08:28:54 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-7396 Green Psychology, Do you mean that when we recognize the guilt and self blame we come closer to true self acceptance? I think it does bring us closer as we are aware of our feelings and actions but I don't think it is good enough. We need to let go of such feelings and get them out of our dictionary. Byron Katie calls them "arguing with life". Expecting something something from yourself is and feeling guilty for not achieving it is like punishing yourself for not being accurate with your expectation - guess. After all, we are not fortune tellers and we guess the outcome of every decision of our life. Guilt is double punishment for not being a perfect fortune teller. No one is, give it up! Ronit Green Psychology,

Do you mean that when we recognize the guilt and self blame we come closer to true self acceptance?

I think it does bring us closer as we are aware of our feelings and actions but I don't think it is good enough. We need to let go of such feelings and get them out of our dictionary. Byron Katie calls them "arguing with life". Expecting something something from yourself is and feeling guilty for not achieving it is like punishing yourself for not being accurate with your expectation - guess. After all, we are not fortune tellers and we guess the outcome of every decision of our life. Guilt is double punishment for not being a perfect fortune teller. No one is, give it up!

Ronit

]]> By: Green Psychologyhttp://www.ronitbaras.com/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-7388 Green Psychology Tue, 21 Dec 2010 02:51:04 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-7388 Guilt and self blame vs. self acceptance: When we accept the guilt-ing and self-blaming parts of ourselves, we come closer to true self-acceptance. Guilt and self blame vs. self acceptance: When we accept the guilt-ing and self-blaming parts of ourselves, we come closer to true self-acceptance.

]]> By: Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini-Course (Part 12)http://www.ronitbaras.com/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-828 Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini-Course (Part 12) Mon, 02 Jun 2008 07:22:57 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-828 [...] Chapter 1: Introduction to Identity and Self Esteem [...] [...] Chapter 1: Introduction to Identity and Self Esteem [...]

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]]> By: Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini Course (part 9)http://www.ronitbaras.com/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-624 Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini Course (part 9) Mon, 12 May 2008 03:47:46 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-624 [...] Chapter 1: Introduction to Identity and Self Esteem [...] [...] Chapter 1: Introduction to Identity and Self Esteem [...]

]]> By: Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini Course (part 8)http://www.ronitbaras.com/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-581 Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini Course (part 8) Wed, 07 May 2008 06:27:59 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-581 [...] Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately), assertiveness is not an inherited trait and many people raise children with the “disease to please” from a very early age. We reward them whenever they do what we want them to do and thus we teach them that their worth depends on others (see also How school promotes low self-esteem). [...] [...] Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately), assertiveness is not an inherited trait and many people raise children with the “disease to please” from a very early age. We reward them whenever they do what we want them to do and thus we teach them that their worth depends on others (see also How school promotes low self-esteem). [...]

]]> By: Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini-Course (part 7)http://www.ronitbaras.com/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-532 Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini-Course (part 7) Wed, 30 Apr 2008 12:23:45 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-532 [...] Chapter 1: Introduction to Identity and Self Esteem [...] [...] Chapter 1: Introduction to Identity and Self Esteem [...]

]]> By: Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini-Course (part 5)http://www.ronitbaras.com/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-395 Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini-Course (part 5) Mon, 07 Apr 2008 11:38:49 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-395 [...] you have not read the previous chapters of the self-esteem mini-course, go to: self esteem, how school contributes to our low self-esteem, where we get our beliefs from and how society influences our [...] [...] you have not read the previous chapters of the self-esteem mini-course, go to: self esteem, how school contributes to our low self-esteem, where we get our beliefs from and how society influences our [...]

]]> By: Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini-Course (part 4)http://www.ronitbaras.com/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-335 Family Matters » Blog Archive » Self Esteem Mini-Course (part 4) Tue, 25 Mar 2008 08:16:49 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-335 [...] our previous chapters of the self-esteem course, we talked about what self-esteem is, how school contributes to our low self-esteem and the sources of the beliefs that form our [...] [...] our previous chapters of the self-esteem course, we talked about what self-esteem is, how school contributes to our low self-esteem and the sources of the beliefs that form our [...]

]]> By: Kathyhttp://www.ronitbaras.com/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-303 Kathy Tue, 18 Mar 2008 20:42:42 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/life-coaching/self-esteem-mini-course-part-2/#comment-303 Therefore the theme of YYOL which helps the child realize the “cheer” leader lies within. The picture book story of Hur-Ray encouraging Kiddazy to grow into a flower and get a YYOL face (just like Hur-Ray’s) confirms that it is only after Kiddazy cheers on the other sprouts in a “pay it forward” fashion, does the understanding that it is in the cheering on of others, lies Kiddazy’s own self-esteem, and YYOL is actualized. Therefore the theme of YYOL which helps the child realize the “cheer” leader lies within. The picture book story of Hur-Ray encouraging Kiddazy to grow into a flower and get a YYOL face (just like Hur-Ray’s) confirms that it is only after Kiddazy cheers on the other sprouts in a “pay it forward” fashion, does the understanding that it is in the cheering on of others, lies Kiddazy’s own self-esteem, and YYOL is actualized.

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