Family Matters

Yesterday, during a session with two of my parenting clients, they asked me again, “Why do you send your kids to school?” My answer was “Because kids are like mice - they need friends”. Research on mice and relationship has found that mice that spent their time with other mice live longer - as a matter a fact, twice as long - than mice who lived on their own. Happy kids, just like happy mice, need company and this is the main reason for sending kids to school.

Many couples in crisis get to this situation because do not know each other well. Knowing each other is the first step in overcoming conflicts. In this part of “Save Your Marriage”, I am going to write about the importance of knowing your partner and teach you how to learn all there is to know about your partner. Getting to know your partner’s fears, joys, history and attitude are the first step of any relationship.

True friends are forever. It is amazing how long we keep true friendships. From primary school age and across oceans, we take a feeling of belonging and connectedness with us and maintain friendships.

Divorcing is actually the end of a very special friendship. It is a friendship between partners and lovers. If we remember to treat our partners like we treat those special friends, it would probably make life much easier.

When you decide to leave what you consider home and travel, you get to meet people, who would never have come into your life if you had not left. When people ask me about the emotional and social difficulties of moving from one place to another, I tell them that I get to meet wonderful people and that to help myself adjust to a new place, I tell myself that the new place has many true friends I have not met yet.

So how do you know your true friends?

This is the tale of Noff and her 2 friends. It started out just great, but then having 3 girls together created tension and rivalry.

Having an odd number of friends will do this every time, so keep that in mind when arranging company for your kids to save them the heartache.