Comments on: Sarcasm – The Weapon of Helplessness http://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/sarcasm-the-weapon-of-helplessness/ "Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids" Tue, 07 Feb 2012 12:26:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: ronitbarashttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/sarcasm-the-weapon-of-helplessness/#comment-8215 ronitbaras Wed, 01 Feb 2012 05:32:00 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=480#comment-8215 Queenleen,  You must understand she is poisoning herself and an expression of hopelessness and frustrated.  Do not reply when she is using sarcasm - It is very hard to communicate with sarcasm and people usually reply with sarcasm, which only make things worst.  Help her find out what makes her so frustrated and feeling helpless.  Queenleen, 

You must understand she is poisoning herself and an expression of hopelessness and frustrated. 
Do not reply when she is using sarcasm - It is very hard to communicate with sarcasm and people usually reply with sarcasm, which only make things worst. 
Help her find out what makes her so frustrated and feeling helpless. 

]]> By: Queenleenhttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/sarcasm-the-weapon-of-helplessness/#comment-8156 Queenleen Fri, 21 Oct 2011 18:48:00 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=480#comment-8156 Wnat if its your teenage daughter constantly spewing the sarcasm?! Wnat if its your teenage daughter constantly spewing the sarcasm?!

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]]> By: Ronit Barashttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/sarcasm-the-weapon-of-helplessness/#comment-4409 Ronit Baras Fri, 14 Aug 2009 02:23:54 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=480#comment-4409 HI Sue, Some people are sarcastic because they grew up in a family that was sarcastic and they do not think there is anything wrong with it. The first thing is to forgive them and not take it personal. If you watch two sarcastic people talking, it may sound like a war with swords but for them it is not like that. The first suggestion I have is not to tell yourself and others about the many examples because it is just poison that stays in your body. It may be a difference in communication style. I would recommend talking to him about your thoughts and feelings when you are in a good place ( not when you are in any conflict) Happy day Ronit <a href="http://www.themotivationalspeaker.biz/" rel="nofollow">The Motivational Speaker </a> HI Sue,

Some people are sarcastic because they grew up in a family that was sarcastic and they do not think there is anything wrong with it.
The first thing is to forgive them and not take it personal.
If you watch two sarcastic people talking, it may sound like a war with swords but for them it is not like that.

The first suggestion I have is not to tell yourself and others about the many examples because it is just poison that stays in your body.

It may be a difference in communication style.
I would recommend talking to him about your thoughts and feelings when you are in a good place ( not when you are in any conflict)

Happy day
Ronit
The Motivational Speaker

]]> By: Gal Barashttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/sarcasm-the-weapon-of-helplessness/#comment-4388 Gal Baras Wed, 05 Aug 2009 06:44:23 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=480#comment-4388 @Sue It's really difficult to tell whether you were being oversensitive, because "bored and flat" is already your interpretation of your husband's tone. Regardless, the sense of humor varies from one person to the next and what bores one may still make another laugh. Nobody can make you fed up without your permission, so choose to keep feeling happy. Many couples have "sore spots" from years of unresolved friction. Do a search for "save your marriage" or click the "relationships" or "self esteem" tags on any page of this site to find lots of relevant posts with tips on how to overcome these sensitivities and restore your happiness (and your husband's). @Sue It's really difficult to tell whether you were being oversensitive, because "bored and flat" is already your interpretation of your husband's tone. Regardless, the sense of humor varies from one person to the next and what bores one may still make another laugh. Nobody can make you fed up without your permission, so choose to keep feeling happy.

Many couples have "sore spots" from years of unresolved friction. Do a search for "save your marriage" or click the "relationships" or "self esteem" tags on any page of this site to find lots of relevant posts with tips on how to overcome these sensitivities and restore your happiness (and your husband's).

]]> By: Suehttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/sarcasm-the-weapon-of-helplessness/#comment-4387 Sue Tue, 04 Aug 2009 09:42:56 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=480#comment-4387 I often feel demeaned and upset by my partners sarcasm. For instance this morning I was reading internet papers online and an article made me laugh out loud. He asked me what it was and I read the paragraph out to which he responded in a really bored and flat voice 'priceless'. Am I being oversensitive to be hurt by this? It is not the only example - just the most recent. It just really took the wind out of my sails - I went from feeling happy to so fed up. I often feel demeaned and upset by my partners sarcasm. For instance this morning I was reading internet papers online and an article made me laugh out loud. He asked me what it was and I read the paragraph out to which he responded in a really bored and flat voice 'priceless'. Am I being oversensitive to be hurt by this? It is not the only example - just the most recent. It just really took the wind out of my sails - I went from feeling happy to so fed up.

]]> By: Gal Barashttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/sarcasm-the-weapon-of-helplessness/#comment-1003 Gal Baras Sun, 29 Jun 2008 15:08:04 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=480#comment-1003 Hi Elan, The best way to help your husband is by being a good role model and directing positive energy towards him. If it helps, close your eyes and imagine him as a 3-year-old being treated with sarcasm at home, then talk to that child when you talk to your husband. Good luck, Gal Hi Elan,

The best way to help your husband is by being a good role model and directing positive energy towards him. If it helps, close your eyes and imagine him as a 3-year-old being treated with sarcasm at home, then talk to that child when you talk to your husband.

Good luck,
Gal

]]> By: Elanhttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/sarcasm-the-weapon-of-helplessness/#comment-998 Elan Sat, 28 Jun 2008 04:55:47 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=480#comment-998 After re-reading your article, I realized it already answered my own questions, and was helpful in helping me decide how to address the issue with my husband. Though if you have additional comments, they would be welcomed. After re-reading your article, I realized it already answered my own questions, and was helpful in helping me decide how to address the issue with my husband. Though if you have additional comments, they would be welcomed.

]]> By: Elanhttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/sarcasm-the-weapon-of-helplessness/#comment-996 Elan Sat, 28 Jun 2008 03:53:11 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=480#comment-996 I'm not sure if I'm overreacting, so I'd like comments. We were tucking our 8 yo daughter in bed, when my DH said (joking and sarcastic) "Someone at [event] tonite said you sure were sweet...I thought they couldn't be talking about MY daughter!" She replied by asking who said she was sweet, did she have long hair etc. He tried to explain his sarcastic comment again, at which she was silent. So, I said "Daddy was teasing" Then he commented that she didn't really want to be called sweet anyway, did she?, so she agreed. When I asked her later if she really didn't want people calling her sweet, she said that she wanted people to call her mean and an ogre. I think it really hurt her feelings. I had a very sarcastic family, and I've decided that it does cover up feelings of inadequacy (I used it myself for years, when I was unhappy and unsure) Can I influence him to use less sarcasm, or will it only happen if he feels better about himself or sees that it can really hurt feelings in a young child? Comments... am I blowing things out of proportion? I'm not sure if I'm overreacting, so I'd like comments. We were tucking our 8 yo daughter in bed, when my DH said (joking and sarcastic) "Someone at [event] tonite said you sure were sweet...I thought they couldn't be talking about MY daughter!" She replied by asking who said she was sweet, did she have long hair etc. He tried to explain his sarcastic comment again, at which she was silent. So, I said "Daddy was teasing" Then he commented that she didn't really want to be called sweet anyway, did she?, so she agreed. When I asked her later if she really didn't want people calling her sweet, she said that she wanted people to call her mean and an ogre. I think it really hurt her feelings. I had a very sarcastic family, and I've decided that it does cover up feelings of inadequacy (I used it myself for years, when I was unhappy and unsure) Can I influence him to use less sarcasm, or will it only happen if he feels better about himself or sees that it can really hurt feelings in a young child? Comments... am I blowing things out of proportion?

]]> By: Gal Barashttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/sarcasm-the-weapon-of-helplessness/#comment-796 Gal Baras Thu, 29 May 2008 01:50:35 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=480#comment-796 I'm glad you enjoyed it, Tina. It's funny how this blogging business works, isn't it? While writing the post, I was thinking of how different I am now, after going through <a href="http://www.behappyinlife.com/lifecoaching.php" rel="nofollow">life coaching</a> and learning to feel in control of my life. In my "previous life" as a corporate IT professional, sarcasm was my refuge from feeling unappreciated and ignored, but now, somehow there is always something I can do or some feeling I can change and then things work out a whole lot better and there's no need for sarcasm, other than as an indication of how I'm feeling. I'm glad you enjoyed it, Tina.

It's funny how this blogging business works, isn't it? While writing the post, I was thinking of how different I am now, after going through life coaching and learning to feel in control of my life.

In my "previous life" as a corporate IT professional, sarcasm was my refuge from feeling unappreciated and ignored, but now, somehow there is always something I can do or some feeling I can change and then things work out a whole lot better and there's no need for sarcasm, other than as an indication of how I'm feeling.

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