Comments on: Incentives to Change the Divorce Rate http://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/incentives-to-change-the-divorce-rate/ "Happy Parents Raise Happy Kids" Mon, 21 May 2012 19:50:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Mikehttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/incentives-to-change-the-divorce-rate/#comment-6179 Mike Thu, 01 Jul 2010 21:35:27 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=19#comment-6179 * 82% reach their 5th anniversary * 65% reach their 10th anniversary * 52% reach their 15th anniversary * 33% reach their 25th anniversary * 20% reach their 35th anniversary, and * only 5% reach their 50th anniversary Hi Ronit, I was wonder where you sourced the above statistics from. I Like the article, by the way. Mike * 82% reach their 5th anniversary
* 65% reach their 10th anniversary
* 52% reach their 15th anniversary
* 33% reach their 25th anniversary
* 20% reach their 35th anniversary, and
* only 5% reach their 50th anniversary

Hi Ronit,

I was wonder where you sourced the above statistics from.

I Like the article, by the way.

Mike

]]> By: Top Parenting Bloggers Discuss (11): Government Policy Suggestionshttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/incentives-to-change-the-divorce-rate/#comment-5920 Top Parenting Bloggers Discuss (11): Government Policy Suggestions Fri, 04 Jun 2010 03:16:18 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=19#comment-5920 [...] Reward parents for staying together. The economic toll of separation of couples is huge. Invest in communication skills and in better relationships. If the emotional support for parents keeps them together and happy, kids will benefit from it greatly. [...] [...] Reward parents for staying together. The economic toll of separation of couples is huge. Invest in communication skills and in better relationships. If the emotional support for parents keeps them together and happy, kids will benefit from it greatly. [...]

]]> By: Ronit Barashttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/incentives-to-change-the-divorce-rate/#comment-4643 Ronit Baras Mon, 16 Nov 2009 03:58:55 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=19#comment-4643 Hi Cory, Thanks for the kind words. Ronit Hi Cory,

Thanks for the kind words.

Ronit

]]> By: Cory Aidenmanhttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/incentives-to-change-the-divorce-rate/#comment-4637 Cory Aidenman Fri, 13 Nov 2009 12:22:33 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=19#comment-4637 Well worth the read, it’s inspirational. Well worth the read, it’s inspirational.

]]> By: Ronit Barashttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/incentives-to-change-the-divorce-rate/#comment-4288 Ronit Baras Fri, 03 Jul 2009 07:04:47 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=19#comment-4288 Divorce online, Well, I am sure that selling divorce online and making it easy for people to divorce puts you in a position that is a bit problematic . Of course you don't think that making it legally difficult is going to help. Just for a general knowledge, the Australian government requires every couple who wants to divorce to live apart for 12 month before they can apply for divorce even if they 100% agree on all terms. Let me tell you what I think about it. Brilliant! Just Brilliant! Why? Because sooooooooo many of my clients come at the beginning of that year and after 3-6 month they go back together to a honeymoon lifestyle. You know what? if they could finish it in seconds, they would have! People who wants to divorce should not do things in a rush. It is as simple as that. My mom always says, it takes a long time to milk a cow and fill up a bucket but seconds to kick the bucket and spill the milk. Marriage is just the same, we must make marriage a heavy steel bucket that if someone kicks it, his foot will hurt and the bucket will keep standing still. 1. I never said make it hard - I said " do not make it easy" - I see a big difference. 2. I never said punish - I said "reward those who stay together"- I see a big difference. one is pain focused, the other is pleasure - I think there is a big difference between them. wishing you long life together - which is the real reward. Ronit <a href="http://www.ronitbaras.com/" rel="nofollow">Family Matters </a> Divorce online,

Well, I am sure that selling divorce online and making it easy for people to divorce puts you in a position that is a bit problematic . Of course you don't think that making it legally difficult is going to help.

Just for a general knowledge, the Australian government requires every couple who wants to divorce to live apart for 12 month before they can apply for divorce even if they 100% agree on all terms. Let me tell you what I think about it.

Brilliant! Just Brilliant!

Why?

Because sooooooooo many of my clients come at the beginning of that year and after 3-6 month they go back together to a honeymoon lifestyle. You know what? if they could finish it in seconds, they would have! People who wants to divorce should not do things in a rush.

It is as simple as that. My mom always says, it takes a long time to milk a cow and fill up a bucket but seconds to kick the bucket and spill the milk. Marriage is just the same, we must make marriage a heavy steel bucket that if someone kicks it, his foot will hurt and the bucket will keep standing still.

1. I never said make it hard - I said " do not make it easy" - I see a big difference.
2. I never said punish - I said "reward those who stay together"- I see a big difference.

one is pain focused, the other is pleasure - I think there is a big difference between them.

wishing you long life together - which is the real reward.

Ronit
Family Matters

]]> By: DivorcedinCanadahttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/incentives-to-change-the-divorce-rate/#comment-4258 DivorcedinCanada Sat, 27 Jun 2009 23:16:12 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=19#comment-4258 Will governments ever risk ticking off lawyers by making it easy to file divorce documents online? Staying together ought not just be about making it legally difficult to divorce. Will governments ever risk ticking off lawyers by making it easy to file divorce documents online? Staying together ought not just be about making it legally difficult to divorce.

]]> By: Ronit Barashttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/incentives-to-change-the-divorce-rate/#comment-2635 Ronit Baras Fri, 03 Oct 2008 08:04:13 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=19#comment-2635 Hi E, When I was young it wasn't such a big deal. We hardly had a relative or friend that divorced. I agree it is a problem now. I hope we'll be able to change this. you can change this I can change this. you can see ways to change this in the "Save your marriage" chapters http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/2008/04/emotional-intelligence/relationships/save-your-marriage-part-1/ http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/2008/05/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/save-your-marriage-part-2/ http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/2008/05/emotional-intelligence/relationships/save-your-marriage-part-3/ http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/2008/05/emotional-intelligence/relationships/save-your-marriage-part-4/ and at this stage there are about 12 of them. Read them and make sure that you can change the divorce rate and reach the 5% All the best Ronit Hi E,

When I was young it wasn't such a big deal.
We hardly had a relative or friend that divorced.
I agree it is a problem now.

I hope we'll be able to change this.
you can change this
I can change this.

you can see ways to change this in the "Save your marriage" chapters
http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/2008/04/emotional-intelligence/relationships/save-your-marriage-part-1/

http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/2008/05/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/save-your-marriage-part-2/

http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/2008/05/emotional-intelligence/relationships/save-your-marriage-part-3/

http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/2008/05/emotional-intelligence/relationships/save-your-marriage-part-4/

and at this stage there are about 12 of them.
Read them and make sure that you can change the divorce rate and reach the 5%

All the best
Ronit

]]> By: Ehttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/incentives-to-change-the-divorce-rate/#comment-2623 E Fri, 03 Oct 2008 03:59:39 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=19#comment-2623 I think divorce is one of the scariest things for kids. I know when I was younger, the thought of my parents splitting up was terrifying. Now-a-days nearly half of my friends' parents are divorced. I hope everyone reaches that top 5%! I think divorce is one of the scariest things for kids. I know when I was younger, the thought of my parents splitting up was terrifying. Now-a-days nearly half of my friends' parents are divorced.
I hope everyone reaches that top 5%!

]]> By: 60 Tips for a Happy Marriage -- Family Mattershttp://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/incentives-to-change-the-divorce-rate/#comment-2010 60 Tips for a Happy Marriage -- Family Matters Fri, 05 Sep 2008 06:10:27 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=19#comment-2010 [...] couples often experience tend to wear off within the first year of marriage and so, if you want to celebrate your 50th anniversary with your partner one day, you both need to make a conscious decision to “water” your [...] [...] couples often experience tend to wear off within the first year of marriage and so, if you want to celebrate your 50th anniversary with your partner one day, you both need to make a conscious decision to “water” your [...]

]]> By: Family Matters » Blog Archive » Save Your Marriage (part 3)http://www.ronitbaras.com/focus-on-the-family/parenting-family/incentives-to-change-the-divorce-rate/#comment-597 Family Matters » Blog Archive » Save Your Marriage (part 3) Thu, 08 May 2008 10:43:19 +0000 http://www.ronitbaras.com/?p=19#comment-597 [...] yes, there is love in relationships, but there is deeper love in a marriage that is on its way to its 25th or 50th year. Sir Arthur Wing Pinero sums it up nicely: “Those who love deeply never grow old; they may die of [...] [...] yes, there is love in relationships, but there is deeper love in a marriage that is on its way to its 25th or 50th year. Sir Arthur Wing Pinero sums it up nicely: “Those who love deeply never grow old; they may die of [...]

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