Comments on: Motivating Kids (1)

By: Motivation for Reluctant Readers Part 1 at Best Blog for Kids Who Hate to Read

Motivation for Reluctant Readers Part 1 at Best Blog for Kids Who Hate to Read — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 09:19:43 +0000

[...] Ronit Baras, a Parenting Guru and Happiness Coach, says this on her website http://www.ronitbaras.com/emotional-intelligence/personal-development-c/motivating-kids-1/: [...]

By: Ronit Baras

Ronit Baras — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 00:12:11 +0000

HI Gary,

If you agree that motivating kids is encouraging them to do things they want - wanting is part of the formula.

I believe that many times wanting for kids is not legitimate and imagining is a way to find out what they want.
If we tell them to imagine we give permission to ignore the obstacles of time, space, resources and limited experience. It works as well with grownups.

I think if you ask your kid what they want and they say " fly to the moon" or "meet Lincoln" it can give you an indication that there is a reason for it. find the reason.
Even if they say they want to eat ice cream for dinner every day ( I would want that too) try to find out what is it they really want and why and use it to talk to them about how realistic it is and what we can gain from it and what we have to give up. If you do it from a position of helping them think rather than tell them what you expect them to think, they will learn to find their own reasons for doing and wanting things = motivation.

There are 18 chapters for the Motivating kids series - It is a bit complected for me to repeat it all. I hope you'll find some explanation there.
The first chapter is:
http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/emotional-intelligence/personal-development-c/motivating-kids-1/

Happy parenting
Ronit

By: Gary

Gary — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 19:39:03 +0000

I'm sorry, I think this post is rather silly. In practice, asking kids what they "want" is great for their imagination but hardly practical for motivation. They would take a plane to the Moon, they would meet Abe Lincoln, they would eat ice cream for dinner every day. Great for discussions and creativity, but the author completely missed explaining how this leads to motivate your child.

By: Ronit Baras

Ronit Baras — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 02:41:23 +0000

Hi Jim,

I am happy you like it.
It is wonderful to hear when people say " I had great parents and I can see how it contributed to my life".

It is not easy being a parent. It is a big task and I think we should give more promotion to those doing a great job in their parenting and being an example.

That is the best compliment you can give your parents.

Happy day
Ronit
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By: Jim

Jim — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 01:24:17 +0000

Great website you have here. More people should read this. I had great parents and it is true I have way less problems than some of my friends

By: Motivating Kids (19) -- Family Matters

Motivating Kids (19) -- Family Matters — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 10:42:41 +0000

[...] is a summary of all chapters of the Motivating Kids series. I hope it will be a great reminder of how to master this form of art. The details are in [...]

By: Ronit Baras

Ronit Baras — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 12:49:45 +0000

Hi Tom the Webmanager,

Do you have someone great to have kids with?
I am glad the posts here helps you better imagine yourself having a family. thanks!

I agree, dreaming questions are a good start, it is safe.

Come again,
Happy days
Ronit

By: Tom the Webmanager

Tom the Webmanager — Mon, 25 May 2009 13:20:12 +0000

Actually I do not have kids now, but during reading your blog posts I can imagine having a family better than before.
I like the "dreaming questions" checklist, I think that is a good starting point, because you need to know what they want before you can fulfil their dreams :-)

By: Ronit Baras

Ronit Baras — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 06:47:29 +0000

Hi student,

I am happy you think it is useful.
Come again

Ronit
Motivating kids in Family Matters

By: Student

Student — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 05:28:33 +0000

mmm...a very useful post, thank you